TIP #1:  BE PREPARED WITH IRREFUTABLE PROOF.   Tip #1 happens before you actually get to the court system and that is to be prepared with irrefutable proof and if you haven't checked out my video on how to select the right attorney you might want to check that out I'll link it in the cards above because in that video I talk about how important it is that your attorney dedicate the time necessary to prepare for your case they say the devil is in the details and that is so certainly true a narcissist or someone with a narcissistic patterns of behavior they are going to throw lies and false accusations so your attorney needs to know all the details of your case backwards and forwards so please check out the video on how to select the right attorney but being prepared before you go into court is actually going to be the first thing you can do for yourself I knew what my ex is going to accuse me of based on his patterns of behavior I always knew oh I better have this because he's likely going to say that it just became natural for me to and so it just became natural for me to over prepare and fully prepare for what ever he might throw my way tip number one just to be fully prepared know your facts know your stories something happened a year ago that you're just now going to court for don't assume you remember every facet study like you're studying for an exam because if you're put on the stand you're going to have to be able to recall facts so have those facts in your head before you go to court narcissist count on people not spending the time to detangle their web of Lies so being as prepared as possible when you go to court is going to be very very helpful.

TIP #2: EXPECT AND ACCEPT

Tip# 2: expect and accept that the false accusations and lies are going to come knowing that they're going to come for you.  We'll help you to mentally and emotionally prepare for the for those lies and the false accusations so just let it roll off your back if you've got a good attorney again selecting the right attorney is really important because it doesn't matter what those false accusations are if your attorney is any good he will be able to clean up the lies so just mentally prepare that those lies and false accusations are going to come and you're not surprised let all the emotion go before you get into court I would go in court knowing he would he was going to say this and that and I took all the sting out of it before I got to court tip number two expect and accept those lies and false accusations are going to happen.

TIP #3: TAKE COPIOUS NOTES

Tip# 3: take copious notes while you are in court take down everything as much as possible with that narcissist is saying about you and if you haven't seen my video on how to take good notes in court I'll link the above.   two I provide a template in that is something I wish I had created for myself before my battle started I created it Midway and I was able to use it thereafter but that template became extremely important as I continued in my journey in Family Court because I was able to take all the notes that I was able to so that during a break on the next day of court I would have irrefutable evidence to come back those lies because I would fully prepare for my court battle but let's say something happened in court that maybe we didn't pull for that particular hearing Maybe we pulled it for a later hearing her prior hearing but it was brought out in this particular hearing well we will put it out again so taking really good when you're in court

TIP #4: BE COMPLETELY NON-EMOTIONAL

Tip #4: be completely non-emotional when the accusations come don't get involved in the drama if you can remain neutral and non-emotional about the lies it helps in two ways it lets the narcissist know that you're not phased by his lies and that's a psychological win you're not letting you're letting that person know you're not letting that lie got to you too it shows the judge that you're not getting involved in the drama or the emotions that the narcissist is baiting you with him narcissist hopes you'll get emotional about the LIE and you're showing the judge that your emotional or filled with drama so it helps in many ways helps you to stay calm.

TIP #5: RELY ON YOUR ATTORNEY

Tip #5:  rely on your attorney.  If your attorney is any good they will be able to clean up anything that was falsely said about you so understanding that your attorney will clean up whatever the other person has said about you or falsely accused you of it's going to help you tremendously it'll help you stay focus on just answering questions even if they're trying to character assassinate you or whatever even if they're trying to character assassinate you just answer the questions there's another prior video on how to testify in court it helps you to just relax.

Personal story of what her ex-husband accused her of.  Back in 2018, our son was diagnosed with a life-changing condition that will impact the rest of his life.  He wasn't out of the hospital one week after this diagnosis before her husband filed a false Child Protective Services CPS report against her, saying that she was not taking care of her son's medical needs.  She was mortified. I'd never been in court for any reason I've never been in trouble so to be falsely accused of not being a good mom just hurt me because I'm a wonderful mom that was the worst he could do to me was falsely accuse me of being a terrible mom it devastated me inside but although I know it wasn't true but the fact is I had to be investigated because when you file a report against CPS they have to file a follow up so when I got the call I was like your who from where I just couldn't believe it was happening so she said she wanted to come over and talk to her she said come over come over now I have nothing to hide she came over the next day and she was saying that report was filed yep that was my ex husband that could have filed something like that I showed her all the medical documentation I was keeping records I showed her where I was keeping all the supplies I showed her all the emails between me and the doctor I was obviously taking care of our son and so she said she has to follow up with the doctor and the Privacy thing she needed to do she said she needed to talk to her son's teachers and I said well that's embarrassing well okay she had nothing to hide we were.